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Pondering Selling My Mom's House

August 20th, 2012 at 04:58 pm

My brother and I jointly own my mom's lake house. We had it appraised after she died, but I haven't been there much. My brother goes often as it's only a couple hour drive for them, but for us, it's almost 8 hours.

My brother, bless him, is a peach. He's fair and business-like, and just called to see if I want to sell my half to him. It would be a nice chunk of change, and we'll almost certainly do, but I guess I still feel some grief about it. We'd still be welcome there, and I think it's not that I really want to still own it, it's that I just wish I could turn back time and have my parents still there.

The money would be great. We could pay off the mortgage, and then start banking that money for home improvements and retirement savings. I wish I wasn't so emotional about it. Bleah.

Posted in Castles and Hovels | 5 Comments »

5 Responses to “Pondering Selling My Mom's House”

  1. creditcardfree Says:
    August 20th, 2012 at 05:33 pm 1345484039
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    I would guess you need to take some more time before making the decision since you are so emotional about it. Can you make plans for a weekend with your family to visit and reminise? It might be good to start making new memories, too.

  2. ceejay74 Says:
    August 20th, 2012 at 05:53 pm 1345485180
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    That would be hard. I was pondering this weekend what would happen when my parents pass (I try not to think about it, but my dad sent a health update on my mom that, while not bad news, made it come to mind despite my trying to ignore it). I don't have any emotional attachment to the main house since we moved around so much when I was a kid, but the vacation property in WV has been a constant throughout my life and full of so many idyllic memories. I wouldn't want to own it, exactly, but if they willed part of it to me it would be hard to part with.

    At least your brother wants to keep it in the family. I would feel good if the WV property stayed with someone in my family even if it wasn't me.

    Sending hugs and wishing that you stay strong as you consider this offer!

  3. patientsaver Says:
    August 20th, 2012 at 08:28 pm 1345494513
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    I can understand why that is hard to deal with. CeeJay had a pretty good idea about maybe making one last trip up there for a weekend, say, before you decide to sell. It might help you come to terms with things and collect your thoughts about things.

    At least it will still be in the family.

  4. Joan.of.the.Arch Says:
    August 20th, 2012 at 10:16 pm 1345500977
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    Ahww. Houses can be so much more than just walls, floors and ceilings. They are powerfully symbolic to us. "Home" is a stronger, more all encompassing symbol to me than is "heart."

  5. FrugalTexan75 Says:
    August 21st, 2012 at 03:30 am 1345519832
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    {{{hugs}}} My dealing with the decision about my dad's car isn't quite the same, but I can certainly understand where you're coming from. Frown

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